Type Seven and Nine is a common relationship combination on the Enneagram. While their energy often draws them in different directions, they can complement each other's blind spots well. The Nine helps to ground the Seven’s exuberant energy and demonstrates how to focus on a single area and see it through.
Our Enneagram Relationship content was co-developed with marital therapist-turned relationship coach Christa Hardin (MA)*.
Enneagram head types are motivated by a desire to be mentally and emotionally safe. They are often logical and analytical people who can be counted on to make decisions in a crisis. There are three Enneagram head types: Five, Six and Seven.
There are nine different Enneagram types in the Enneagram personality system, but statistics suggest they aren’t evenly distributed amongst the population. Considering these differences, the Enneagram has some types that are more rare and some that are more common. So what is the rarest Enneagram type? Among Truity readers, the rarest Enneagram type is Type 7, “The Enthusiast,” with Type 5 “The Investigator” following close behind.
When my sister first told me that she had also tested as an ENFP, my immediate thought was that she was dead wrong.
Clearly, I am the one and only true ENFP! (Sounds just like an ENFP thing to say, yeah?)
I went through all of the deep ENFP knowledge I’ve learned in my years studying personality theory. I took each letter one by one, dug into the cognitive functions, and even compared both of us against characters of the TV show Friends to make my case.
This blog post is part of our Fundamentals of the Enneagram series, which takes a deeper dive into all the Enneagram elements - wings, arrows, subtypes, centers of intelligence, growth pathways and more. For an overview of the series, start with our introductory post here, then read Subtypes and Instincts of the Enneagram: What are They, and How Do They Affect Human Behavior?
Enneagram Type Sevens are fun, enthusiastic and romantic partners. They enjoy planning creative dates and keeping the spark alive in their relationships. However, they can struggle with having difficult conversations or paying attention to the details.
So, which Enneagram types are the most compatible with the Type Seven? There isn’t one answer. Sevens can be compatible with any of the types as long as effective communication and mutual love and respect are in place.
Having a true partner in crime can be an absolute delight—whether that’s a friend who is always up for an adventure or a partner who says ‘yes’ more often than ‘no’ to your wild suggestions. For Type Sevens, the best things in life are often made better by sharing them. A good bottle of wine, a sunset, an arthouse film or Sunday’s bottomless brunch, are all more enjoyable when shared with someone.
The Enneagram Type 4 Individualist and Type 7 Enthusiast can seem like oil and water and with dramatically different habits of attention, it can be easy to assume they never get mixed up.
Types 7s look to the positive, seek new experiences, and avoid (either consciously or subconsciously) negative emotions. An assertive personality, Type 7s consider personal freedom a core value.
In an earlier post, I talked about the importance of self-typing in the Enneagram. To determine your Enneagram type, you need to identify yourself. No one else can do this for you.
Famously funny actress Tiffany Haddish has a bold and infectiously positive personality. She’s also incredibly resilient, overcoming tough childhood experiences and working on building her comedy career for nearly two decades before her breakout success in popular comedies such as Girls Trip and Night School. She’s also the author of the best-selling memoir, The Last Black Unicorn.
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