How To Love An Enneagram Heart Type (Types Two, Three And Four)

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on October 08, 2022

Our Enneagram Relationship content was co-developed with marital therapist-turned relationship coach Christa Hardin (MA)*. 


Enneagram heart types are motivated by a desire to be loved and appreciated. They are often very compassionate and caring people who want to make a difference in the world. There are three Enneagram heart types: Two, Three and Four.

What Enneagram Should a Type 3 Marry?

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on August 06, 2022

Enneagram Type 3s might seem like they’re all about business, but they also desire an intense and loving relationship. As one of the three heart types of the Enneagram system, The Achiever has a strong connection to the emotions of others and easily recognizes how someone is feeling. However, when it comes to examining their own feelings, Type 3s have a hard time. So with their tough exterior and on-the-go lifestyle, what Enneagram should a 3 marry?

What Enneagram Type is Taylor Swift?

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on July 19, 2022

Taylor Swift has been in the spotlight since her start as a teenage singer-songwriter. From country to pop and indie-folk, Swift has experimented with different musical genres and aims for innovation whenever she puts out a new album. She’s incredibly good at what she does and, with over 200-million record sales to her name, now ranks among the best-selling musicians of all time. She also advocates for artists' (and women’s) rights in the music industry.

What Does the Enneagram 3 Look Like in Stress?

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on April 01, 2022

When an Enneagram 3 in stress is integrated and well-adjusted, they will manage stressful situations gracefully and proactively. They will see their discomfort as a sign that changes are required, and they will put in the time and effort necessary to make them.

A Deeper Dive Into Enneagram Subtypes: Heart Types 2, 3 and 4

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on March 21, 2022

This blog post is part of our Fundamentals of the Enneagram series, which takes a deeper dive into all the Enneagram elements - wings, arrows, subtypes, centers of intelligence, growth pathways and more. For an overview of the series, start with our introductory post here, then read Subtypes and Instincts of the Enneagram: What are They, and How Do They Affect Human Behavior?

Not Sure If You are an Enneagram Type 2 or a Type 3? Ask Yourself These Four Questions.

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on September 29, 2021

While the Type 2 Giver and the Type 3 Achiever have habits of attention that point in radically different directions, they can still be easy to confuse. Some Type 2s are surprisingly competitive, while some Type 3s are strikingly helpful, so if you’ve ever felt unsure about where your attention goes, it’s understandable. Motivation is a complex, multi-layered aspect of character, and honest self-reflection is a process. 

Enneagram Type 3 Relationship Compatibility

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on September 17, 2021

The ambitious and determined Enneagram Three, “The Achiever,” is a devoted partner, who strives to shine for their partner and build a life together full of happiness and success. As part of the heart-traid, Threes easily pick up on the emotions of other people, but they can struggle to understand their own feelings. Because of this, they need partners who will truly recognize their needs and offer them consistent support. 

What do Enneagram Threes Secretly Want in Relationships?

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on September 17, 2021

We can accomplish far more together than we can alone. In partnerships, we double our productivity, cover each other's blindspots, and tick off life's achievements faster. But only if both people share the same vision, and support each other to approach it in their own way. 


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