Our Enneagram Relationship content was co-developed with marital therapist-turned relationship coach Christa Hardin (MA)*.
Enneagram body types are motivated by a desire to be independent and self-sufficient. They are often very moral people who have a strong sense of right and wrong. There are three Enneagram body types: Eight, Nine and One.
Most know INTJs as efficient, hardworking, and excellent problem-solvers. As Extraverted Thinking Te-users, these personalities rely on facts and logic to make decisions, and usually prioritize reasoning over feeling. Still, though INTJ types share common characteristics among themselves, no two INTJs look exactly the same.
One of the most common mistakes people make when trying to find their Enneagram type is that they over-identify with a single specific trait. For example, someone who over-identifies with anger might assume they are an Enneagram type 8, another with anxiety assumes they are a Type 6, while someone who identifies with helpfulness assumes they are a Type 2.
Relationships are a wonderful place to help us grow and develop hidden parts of ourselves. It is easy to pretend that we are looking for someone just like us, who sees the world through the same lens or perspective that we do. While that might be what we ask for on the surface, all of us have a deeper want or need in our friendships or relationships—one we don’t often voice, or are even that aware of.
Enneagram Ones strive to be good and honorable in all that they do — and this includes within their relationships. Ones are loyal and growth-oriented partners who sincerely want the best for their partner and the relationship. If you have a One as a partner, you have a faithful and determined companion.
When discovering your Enneagram type, it is common to get confused and to see yourself in more than one personality style. It can be helpful to remember that the Enneagram is about identifying a habit of attention. Behavioral traits radiate out from these thought patterns, but the behavior is secondary to the question “where does your attention go?” Behavior on its own is a seductive, but often misleading, indicator of type.
The Type 1 is called the Perfectionist or the Reformer. If this is your habit of attention, you already know you are the person we turn to when we need practical solutions.
Michelle Obama is the most admired woman in the United States, according to the 2020 Gallup Poll, and her husband Barack was the 44th President and first African American President of the United States. They’re an impressive couple, but what can the most admired woman and the former President of the United States teach us about relationships? Using the lens of the Enneagram, it turns out quite a lot.
The prim, proper “work comes before play” Type 1 Perfectionist matched with the pleasure-seeking, happy-go-lucky Type 7 Enthusiast - could they work as a successful couple? Will the strict school teacher and the playful party person balance each other? Or are their differences just too great?
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